My History and Why I am This Way
This writing is to explain how my history in the lifestyle still governs how I live today.
In 1976 I went to college, there I met so many people from all walks of life. After a while a number of us realized that we had interests in some rather kinky aspects of sex. We would hang out and could talk about things normally forbidden without be judged as freaks. An opportunity to rent a place off campus came up. I couldn't leave the dorm but four friends could. We spent a lot of time at that old house and began to actually participate in our cravings. A lot of firsts happened there for me. The biggest eye opener was when I was fucking mu girl in her ass and her friend came up behind me and started with a home made paddle. She timed the strikes so every stroke deep inside that lovely ass was driven in by a hard hit to my ass. That double sensation triggered something in my head and I had the most powerful orgasm yet.
Pain and pleasure became forever locked together in my head. We spent hours exploring twisted sensations, building our own impact toys, dildos and turned an old sofa downstairs into a bondage bench. I has the most wonderful birthday ever tied over the back of it, blindfolded with my spread ass in the air. Everyone at the party, both guys and gals, took turns beating it and giving it a good hard fucking. I have no idea how many had a turn or two (or three), but cum dribbled out of my sore ass for hours later.
Sadly the great times had to end. I had to transfer schools and never could find any good kinky play partners in the new city. Occasionally I could convince someone to get a little experimental but they just did not feel the same joy I did and eventually I just settled down to vanilla sex. Nothing is worse than having a partner just going through the motions.
Jump ahead a number of years. I had just broken up with a girl after a five year relationship and finally decided to spread my wings once again. I started to try connecting online socially, though face*book, collar*me and a couple of other alternative groups. Someone I exchanged with noticed how I used certain phrases and read between the lines. She suggested I try two things- the first was a lifestyle focused social site called fet*life (remove all these asterisks for real names, xhamster screens other sites). The second thing was to meet up with a local BDSM group which was very active. I did both that week.
My world changed once again. Thevfeeling of sitting in a munch with over fifty people who not only had the same pain/pleasure cravings but actively explored their boundaries and helped others discover themselves was fantastic. The group had a house refitted into a playspace with multiple dungeons and held play parties along with educational demos several times a month.
After going through an emotional roller-coaster I had no interest in limiting myself to just a single partner, I wanted to keep things casual and shared with a number of people. At the time I was still mostly a submissive in play but definitely a pansexual in connections. I do not care about gender or what you like to fuck with, it is all sensation and as long as everyone is consensual and has a great time it is a win win.
I spent several years with this group, learned a lot about the lifestyle and myself. I was not used to modern things like safewords and play negotiations but I could see their value. I started to play more as a switch, giving as well as taking. I discovered whole new kinks such as electrical play, sounds and how each design of a whip or paddle can create a totally new sensation. I learned how to structure a scene, from warm up to climax and about subspace. I found out how important aftercare is after a scene and learned so many techniques to manipulate the mind as well as the body. The lifestyle is more to me than some kinky play every so often, it actually defines how I related to others and how every connection is a power exchange.
Eight years ago I was exchanging messages on fet*life and introduced her to our local group. I met her at her first munch and later took her to the groups dungeons. Neither of us were seeking a partner, in fact both of us were determined to avoid that. She was a true submissive who needed to spread her wings and like me she finally found a place to do it safely. We played together, had many scenes and I was surprised to find myself not just wanting her but to totally possess her on every level. Even though I played as a switch I was a dominant to her and we took things to the next level with a trial Collar. It worked out well and nine months later we had a special ceremony and I fully Collared her as mine. We now were exclusive with each other, still went to the BDSM parties but only scened with each other. A year later we married and have been having fun ever since.
She know my cravings of pain and pleasure and while still a sub she performs service topping. We have a great collection of toys and still push our boundaries. She fucks me with strapons and beats my balls until I cum. I take her to subspace and bring her back home.
We both are eager to find new kinks and get inspiration from porn sites such as this one. There are many people traveling the same path we did and watching them in videos starts off some great nights.
Well, that is where I got started and why I am here now.
In 1976 I went to college, there I met so many people from all walks of life. After a while a number of us realized that we had interests in some rather kinky aspects of sex. We would hang out and could talk about things normally forbidden without be judged as freaks. An opportunity to rent a place off campus came up. I couldn't leave the dorm but four friends could. We spent a lot of time at that old house and began to actually participate in our cravings. A lot of firsts happened there for me. The biggest eye opener was when I was fucking mu girl in her ass and her friend came up behind me and started with a home made paddle. She timed the strikes so every stroke deep inside that lovely ass was driven in by a hard hit to my ass. That double sensation triggered something in my head and I had the most powerful orgasm yet.
Pain and pleasure became forever locked together in my head. We spent hours exploring twisted sensations, building our own impact toys, dildos and turned an old sofa downstairs into a bondage bench. I has the most wonderful birthday ever tied over the back of it, blindfolded with my spread ass in the air. Everyone at the party, both guys and gals, took turns beating it and giving it a good hard fucking. I have no idea how many had a turn or two (or three), but cum dribbled out of my sore ass for hours later.
Sadly the great times had to end. I had to transfer schools and never could find any good kinky play partners in the new city. Occasionally I could convince someone to get a little experimental but they just did not feel the same joy I did and eventually I just settled down to vanilla sex. Nothing is worse than having a partner just going through the motions.
Jump ahead a number of years. I had just broken up with a girl after a five year relationship and finally decided to spread my wings once again. I started to try connecting online socially, though face*book, collar*me and a couple of other alternative groups. Someone I exchanged with noticed how I used certain phrases and read between the lines. She suggested I try two things- the first was a lifestyle focused social site called fet*life (remove all these asterisks for real names, xhamster screens other sites). The second thing was to meet up with a local BDSM group which was very active. I did both that week.
My world changed once again. Thevfeeling of sitting in a munch with over fifty people who not only had the same pain/pleasure cravings but actively explored their boundaries and helped others discover themselves was fantastic. The group had a house refitted into a playspace with multiple dungeons and held play parties along with educational demos several times a month.
After going through an emotional roller-coaster I had no interest in limiting myself to just a single partner, I wanted to keep things casual and shared with a number of people. At the time I was still mostly a submissive in play but definitely a pansexual in connections. I do not care about gender or what you like to fuck with, it is all sensation and as long as everyone is consensual and has a great time it is a win win.
I spent several years with this group, learned a lot about the lifestyle and myself. I was not used to modern things like safewords and play negotiations but I could see their value. I started to play more as a switch, giving as well as taking. I discovered whole new kinks such as electrical play, sounds and how each design of a whip or paddle can create a totally new sensation. I learned how to structure a scene, from warm up to climax and about subspace. I found out how important aftercare is after a scene and learned so many techniques to manipulate the mind as well as the body. The lifestyle is more to me than some kinky play every so often, it actually defines how I related to others and how every connection is a power exchange.
Eight years ago I was exchanging messages on fet*life and introduced her to our local group. I met her at her first munch and later took her to the groups dungeons. Neither of us were seeking a partner, in fact both of us were determined to avoid that. She was a true submissive who needed to spread her wings and like me she finally found a place to do it safely. We played together, had many scenes and I was surprised to find myself not just wanting her but to totally possess her on every level. Even though I played as a switch I was a dominant to her and we took things to the next level with a trial Collar. It worked out well and nine months later we had a special ceremony and I fully Collared her as mine. We now were exclusive with each other, still went to the BDSM parties but only scened with each other. A year later we married and have been having fun ever since.
She know my cravings of pain and pleasure and while still a sub she performs service topping. We have a great collection of toys and still push our boundaries. She fucks me with strapons and beats my balls until I cum. I take her to subspace and bring her back home.
We both are eager to find new kinks and get inspiration from porn sites such as this one. There are many people traveling the same path we did and watching them in videos starts off some great nights.
Well, that is where I got started and why I am here now.
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